Girls of all kinds can be beautiful – from the thin, plus-sized, short, very tall, ebony to porcelain-skinned; the quirky, clumsy, shy, outgoing and all in between. It’s not easy though because many people still put beauty into a confining, narrow box…Think outside of the box…Pledge that you will look in the mirror and find the unique beauty in you.’
One thing that really, really frustrates me is how society has its own image of beauty. You are either too skinny, too fat, too small, too tall, and so on and so forth. Anytime you walk into your local shop you’re usually faced with newspapers with bold headlines and glossy magazines with shocking revelations. Beyonce has ‘rolls’? How awkward is Taylor Swifts posture? How fat has Selena Gomez gone? Is she spiralling out of control?
But why are we so obsessed with body image and weight? Why can’t we just be happy with the way we are without comparing? As humans we can be our own worst enemy, but it’s even worse when it’s being pushed down your throat and fed to you by the media.
All my life I have been a very skinny child and teenager, I have had skinny legs, skinny arms, hardly much of a chest and a small bum, and only recently started to fill out and I was made to feel incredibly awkward and uncomfortable with my body in my younger years, as most people do. I never starve myself, I’ve always ate (relatively) healthy meals, I eat a LOT of high calorie things and yet I still barley put weight on… some may call me lucky, some may call me out on it, but me? Well, i’m me, i’d be happy even if I did put weight on, and it bothers me why body weight can threaten people, and cause them to dislike you because you look a certain way.
I’ve known people all their lives be called for being ‘too large’, as myself for being ‘too skinny’, were made to feel extremely awkward and uncomfortable, and it really is not nice. Once, while working as a waitress, I got called out for how skinny I was and got asked if I’d had anything for my tea that night… I’d actually ate like a horse that day… how somebody looks isn’t necessarily to do with what they eat for one, and for two, a lot of it actually comes down to genes. If we’re from a naturally larger built family, the likelihood is you will be passed down the same genes as if someone came from a naturally skinny family.
A lot of evidence suggests that our genes have a big role in determining our weight, so you’re basically calling someone out for the way they naturally are… that’s unfair… the same as skin colour, we can’t control it, we can’t really change it, some people can’t control their weight.
I’ve also never understood why there is so much hate towards size 0 women, as some people are naturally size 0 and don’t really put weight on. I have never understood why there is so much hate towards size 18 women, as some people are naturally larger and can’t take the weight off so easily, and look fine as hell as they are. And heck! Is there such thing as an ideal weight and size? As long as we are healthy and as long as we are comfortable, what is the issue? There is so much hate about being curvy, there is too much hate about being thin, and these issues really don’t need to be raised unless its a hazard to the persons health. The issue in my opinion that needs to be raised is why can’t we all be comfortable without somebody making a comment? Why can’t we be happy in our own skin and brag about it?
I believe that there should be a campaign for women to be comfortable in their skin no matter what size. It hurts and upsets me for people to call me for being ‘under weight’ and I have been called ‘anorexic’ too many times in high school, and this is not ok. Anorexia is a serious health issue, and nothing like that should ever be thrown around to use as an insult to someone, and it is insulting that somebody would think its ok to use it. These things are not ok. Being called ‘fat’ and ‘morbidly obese’ and other hurtful names is again, it is not ok.
We are in 2016 people. This should not be an issue anymore. If you feel like you have to body shame somebody, then take a good long hard look in the mirror.
You’re all beautiful. Every single last one of you. Tall, small, black, white, blonde hair, blue hair, who cares? Everyones unique in their own way, remember that, don’t ever change yourself because you don’t look a certain way, you look like you for a reason, it’s ancestry that lives on and you should be proud of who you are. 🙂